A: I am a psychologist with over twenty-five years of experience working with children, parents and families around divorce issues. But I also have first-hand experience with the nest. In 1993, my ex-husband and I put in place a nesting plan to keep the children in a stable environment, while we make our decisions on the next steps. We put in a box for fifteen months, until our divorce was over, we understood our finances and what our future living conditions would be. In the event of separation or divorce, maintaining as much stability and normality should be a priority for children. A good way to do this for parents who can afford it is to make a Nesting deal. Nests or bird nests is when the children stay in the marital home and the parents take turns living in the house with them.